Fear is our greatest enemy. Millions of people are afraid of the past, the future, living fully, old age, death and selling. Fear is a thought in our mind and we are afraid of our own thoughts.
Fear stands behind business failures, sickness and bad human relations. We are born with only two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of noise. These are our internal alarm systems given to us by nature as a means of self-preservation.
Normal fear is good. We hear an automobile coming towards us and we step out of the way to survive. The sudden fear of being run over is overcome by our actions. All other fears were given to us by our parents, relatives, teachers and everyone who influenced us in our youth.
Abnormal fear takes place when we let our imagination run wild. There are many people who are afraid to make sales calls, ride elevators, climb mountains or go into the water. They may have endured an unpleasant experience in the water while in their youth, such as having been pushed in when they didn’t know how to swim.
A friend had a bad experience when he was about 16 years of age. He almost drowned and still has a fear inside his head. He can still remember the water engulfing his head and gasping for air until he was pulled out at the last moment. This experience embedded into his subconscious mind and for years after, he feared the water. The same goes for business and sales calls.
The answer to abnormal fear is to mentally move to the opposite. There is no movement if we remain in fear, instead there’s physical and mental deterioration. When we experience fear, immediately we have a desire for the opposite to what we’re afraid of. Give your attention to the thing immediately desired, because the universal mind knows what your intentions are by what you give attention to. Get absorbed in your desire, trusting and knowing that the subjective always overturns the objective. This attitude will give you self-confidence and raise your potential to overcome your fear. The unlimited power of your subconscious mind moves on your behalf, and cannot fail. Peace of mind and assurance are yours.
You can overcome all abnormal fears when you understand that the power of your subconscious mind can change the conditions and circumstances or your life and bring into reality your deepest desires.
There is a process and technique for overcoming all fears. It works marvelously. Suppose you are afraid of following up with clients. If you are afraid of following up with clients, begin by sitting quietly for five or 10 minutes three or four times a day and imagine you are following up flawlessly. This is a subjective experience.
You are mentally projecting yourself into the steps to following up. You see yourself making the call, meeting with the client and having them be happy to hear from you. It is a vivid, real and fun activity of the mind. It is not just idle daydreaming, for what you are experiencing in your imagination will be developed in your subconscious mind. Then you will be compelled to express the likeness of the image you impressed on your deeper mind. This is the law of the subconscious.
The subconscious mind is open to suggestion and is controlled by suggestion. When we quiet our mind and relax, the thoughts sink down from our conscious mind into our subconscious like seeds being planted in a garden. As these positive seeds grow and prosper you become controlled, serene and calm.
The quickest way to overcome fear is to sit down for about five minutes and say to yourself slowly, quietly and positively, “I am going to master this fear. I am overcoming it now. I speak with poise and confidence. I am relaxed and at ease.” Work with the law of your mind and overcome your fears.
Dan LeFave is the “Prepare for Success” coach, No. 1 best-selling author, speaker, habit-changer and the creator of the online program Live Without Limitations – Five Easy Steps to Release Old Limitations and Balance Your Life. He has been profiled on radio shows, in magazines, articles and podcasts, from Manhattan to Vancouver. Dan’s motto is, “Thoughts become untangled as they pass through your lips and over fingertips.” Visit his website.